Single on Valentine’s
“Valentine’s Day is on the horizon and, yet again, I find myself trying to prove to my friends and family that I’m single and loving it. Truth is I’m not okay being single and the fact that they’re somehow tapping into my inner feelings is really pissing me off. I’m a moderately attractive guy, I’m pretty creative, I’m often funny, and I’m intelligent. My mom can’t be wrong about all of those things. However the fact that she says I’m “moderately attractive” does take me down a few pegs. What does she know anyway? Answer: A lot obviously because my dating life in Richmond, since moving back in 2010, has been borderline abysmal.
Okay, so here’s the deal. After living the single life for two years, I finally found a guy whom I liked. Problem was, I met him via an online dating site and he lived nearly four hours away. However hoping that we’d somehow figure this thing out, we tried the long distance thing until it was clear that it wouldn’t work. We really liked each other, but he wasn’t in the position to move and neither was I. So unfortunately after only six months we ended it. Afterwards I figured I’d take a break from dating altogether and instead focus that energy on family, friends, career, and hobbies. But now after lone-wolfing it for nearly five months, I feel it’s time to dangle my bait out there and see what latches on. (I could’ve probably phrased that better.)
Since officially declaring myself back on the market, I’ve come to the tragic realization that I am out of touch with my gay brethren in the city. I don’t know where to go to meet eligible professional guys, like myself, in a non-bar setting. Hell now-a-days I’m always trying to stand out so that if, in the off chance, someone mentions me in a Craigslist Missed Connection ad I’ll know for sure I’m the one they’re talking about. That’s right guys, I’ve been driven to check out “The List”. “The List” is what the in-crowd gays call Craigslist.
I guess I should take some of the blame for my tragic dating life or lack thereof. My ideal man (masculine, tall, nice teeth, clean fingernails, somewhat athletic) has severely limited my dating options. I mean seriously, where the hell are the out masculine guys hiding? Answer: Gay cruising spots. But sorry I don’t consider cruising Belle Isle on a Sunday evening an ideal first date. (Disclaimer: I have no idea if that’s actually a cruising location, but it feels pretty “cruisey”, right?)
Well we’ve made it to the end of my first post. Twice monthly I’ll be documenting my many dalliances (Presumptuous much?) in the great city of Richmond. Should the posts stop, do not be alarmed for I have met a guy and I am happy. However looking at my track record over the past two and a half years, you guys have nothing to worry about (if you’re actually worrying). I look forward to you guys following me on this journey.”
Born and raised in Petersburg, VA, Anthony works as a State Farm Account Representative in Enterprise Rent-A-Car's Insurance Operations Department. In his spare time he can often be found wandering aimlessly, with camera in tow, snapping away. He's also a member of, the Richmond-based, Fools Day Comedy Troupe. Read his personal blog here and follow him on Twitter.
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