One of the most delicate signs of changing times is the change of words. Gay has always been the label for our community and has defined us since we claimed its title. But over the past few years our community has undergone dramatic changes.
We created a subculture unlike any other and it unfolded before us without our control. We called it gay because that is what we were, gay people. But this term which for so long has defined us becomes more and more narrow with every passing moment of our movement. Are we still gay? Is the term still just? Are bisexuals gay? Or do they simply inherit the title by default. What about trans people? Are they simply another minority with an identity molded by a majority? What is LGBTQ? Why are we bar-coded with an anagram and left to pick amongst it’s letters for the one which represents us?
This is why gay is fading and queer is taking over the next generation. To straight people when you tell them you are gay the first thought that comes to mind is gay sex or sexuality in general. But to tell a person you are queer embodies a transformed approach on the character of our culture.
Queer is not gay. It is grey and uncertain. It is vague and lacks definite edges. Queer encompasses a variety of titles and upholds truth to what we stand for. Queer is different and misunderstood. Queer is a word they gave us to bring us shame and we conquered it and made it ours. Queer is not a sexuality, it is an identity.
We are queer and this is our people. Queer is all of us.