Let Them Eat The Wedding Cake
The recent break up of Kim Kardashian led to an outpouring from queer folks who demonized her for breaking the sanctity of marriage. L-Word stars, Jill Goldstein and Nikki Weiss-Goldstein wrote a letter saying how this marriage for “ratings” and “millions of dollars”…”disturbs us” because we don’t have the right to marry.
I was not quite as disturbed because celebrities began disrespecting marriage a long time ago: Britney Spear’s 2-day marriage. Instead, this marriage highlighted that marriage is rooted in power, property and wealth. It solidifies wealth and allows for exchanges of power between families. I have seen plenty of folks (hetreo and homo) date and marry for money; I believe the term is called gold digger?
So through this logic, queers should, also, have the right to swindle the media and disrespect the sanctity of marriage?
Yet, we can not even swindle the media because of the Celluloid Closet, which locks queers out of the public discourse! Shouldn’t we first be working to get more queer folk into the media so that there are more positive role models, accurate depictions, and realistic stories? Or how about instead working so that there aren’t 1,000 specific rights tied up to marriage so that EVERYONE is protected regardless of relationship status.
What disturbed me even more about this marriage was its publicity. I could not watch the news, read a paper or magazine, or surf online without references. I could not even log onto Twitter without seeing it as a leading trend topic. Through all the Kardashian hoopla, I did discover one tidbit of information that truly did disturb me: 15% of Americans are now using food stamps.
I find it disturbing that the world’s wealthiest country has 15% of its populous on food aid. Seeing this statistic really made me better understand the Occupy—- movements. I wondered where was the overblown coverage about this? I wondered why the Goldsteins didn’t ask Kim to donate her wedding profits to food banks.
I dug a little deeper and learned that hunger kills more people per year that AIDS, malaria, and tuberculosis combined, 1 in 7 will go to bed hungry, and that there are ore hungry people in the world than in the USA, Canada, and EU combined. I have a feeling that marriage does not protect against hunger and it is limited to heterosexuals.
If we really wanted to be disturbed then there a lot more pressing and killer issues in the world. I am more disturbed that someone can make millions from a wedding. I am more disturbed that people aren’t talking about the 925,000,000 starving people in the world. I am disturbed that people are telling consenting adults how to manage their personal relationship.
I wish the best of luck to Kim in her new endeavors. If she does follow the Goldsteins’ advice, then I instead hope she donates to hunger prevention versus the Human Rights Campaign. I sense a lot more pressing issues in the world than my right to join into an oppressive institution like marriage.
Jon Henry comes from the small town of Washington, Virginia. Xe finished xes degree at the University of Richmond and was named GayRVA.com's Out.Spoken. Richmonder of the Year for 2011. When not in class, xe is either in the studio or rabble rousing with other queer activists. Follow xem on Twitter.
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