I Guess I’m Out Now?
You ever had something so secret, so detrimental to the very fiber of your being that if it were released people would look at you differently?
Well, up until recently I thought that was the case for me as well. Since the age of thirteen I knew there was something about me that I could never tell to others for fear of retribution.
However during college I felt I should just accept this part of myself and maybe others would follow suit. So I made a group of really good friends and eventually told them one by one that I was gay.
I felt that because this was the only way I went about it no other way would work, but boy was I wrong. Now approaching my 2nd year of coming out, I’ve told just about everyone who’s asked which doesn’t seem to happen much.
Most just assume that because I’m a 6’5″ 245 pound black guy with “straight” mannerisms I’m, in fact, straight. However those who have dared to venture further into my life have found out otherwise.
Well recently, I mentioned to one of my friends from college (different set of friends) that I was going on a blind date. After an unnerving pause in the Facebook chat box, he responded with “…cool, a guy or a girl?”
Slightly stunned, I figured he was just being a dick until I talked with a few other friends about the same issue. All of them responded along the same lines. It seems that a few friends, whom I entrusted my secret to, had told the others without my knowledge.
To be perfectly honest I was pissed, but finding out that they’d known for a while made me realize that this “secret” that I’d made so much of meant nothing to the other guys. Most responded with, “Yeah ******** told me and I was shocked at first, but it didn’t really matter to me.” Then I had one friend say, “I don’t care man, we still love you.” Makes me wonder why I was hiding this from my friends in the first place.
Friends will be there for you no matter what and it seems as though I chose wisely. I guess I’m out now…
…and that’s just fine.
Born and raised in Petersburg, VA, Anthony works as a State Farm Account Representative in Enterprise Rent-A-Car's Insurance Operations Department. In his spare time he can often be found wandering aimlessly, with camera in tow, snapping away. He's also a member of, the Richmond-based, Fools Day Comedy Troupe. Read his personal blog here and follow him on Twitter.
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