Recently, an openly-gay 26-year-old man wrote Miss Manners for advice. Living near his family, he wanted to know how to respond to their unknowing friends when they ask about girls he might be dating. He wanted to be honest, but also appropriate.
Miss Manners disparaged those he hardly knew for asking about his love life, and suggested he not attempt to satisfy busybodies. She said she wouldn’t blame him for giving matter-of-fact answers like, “Yes, I have a boyfriend” or “I haven’t met the right man,” followed by, “But enough about me – tell me about yourself.”
She suggested that if there was shock, complaints, or further questions, his response should be, “But didn’t you just ask me?” – followed by a change of subject.
Tens of thousands of gay servicemembers have been kicked out of the U.S. military both before and after the adoption of the “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy. And with the U.S. Senate’s December, 2010 vote to repeal that policy, it is fitting we remember the very first discharged – Lieutenant Gotthold Frederick Enslin. It all [...]