The ongoing reality show Sister Wives follows a Mormon polygamist family, the Browns, through their daily life and struggles. I must confess to never watching the show and only reading news briefs on it.
The family is suing the government for the right of privacy with Lawrence vs. Texas as their supporting case. This case struck down sodomy laws against queer folks. It proves an interesting twist on the same-sex marriage debate, as the idea is now evolving into plural marriages. Conservatives are already decrying how this is a result of legalization of same-sex marriage and the next step will be the right to marry a goat.
Some LGBTers have taken sides against the Browns.
Yet we seem to have forgotten a subset of our alphabet soup: P for Polyamory. This subset sees the opportunity for multiple fidelities. (As a side note, most of my polyamory friends are also pansexual so they fall in love with multiple people, genders and sexes).
This case, if successful, could prove beneficial for LGBT activists’ lobbying for same-sex marriage. If multiple folks can be married, then why not same-sex folks?
Yet more importantly, it further removes the ‘institution of marriage’ outside of government control through the argument of privacy. There are some concerns about the ramifications considering the resent arrest and convictions of other polygamists like Warren Jeffs. He was convinced of marrying children and raping them.
Queers argued that these Mormon polygamist marriages are misogynistic, anti-feminist and fraught with abuse. There is no doubt that queer polygamist marriages also present the opportunity for equal abuse. We are ignoring fact that straight and gay monogamist marriages are just as filled with abuse — all institutions and activities have the opportunity for abuse. There are other seperate laws to handle those situations. Bigamy & polygamy laws are more forms of state control around how and whom folks can love.
Why not remove these intrusions into personal relationships?