Dollars for Daughters: Turning One Mom’s Intolerance into Something Positive
Photo: Waller and her wife on their wedding day
Looks like Abby met her goal on April 9th! Congrats to a neat cause! Here’s her thank you video.
Everybody has a mom, but not everyone gets along with their mom.
“If you heard some of the things she’s done, you’d turn green,” said Abby Waller, a local woman who hopes to turn the shared experience of intolerant family members into a positive for LGBT causes.
Waller said her plan, Daughters for Dollars, sort of haphazardly came together, “I don’t have a completely constructed plan, it’s really more of a hope.” Using causes.com, a fundraising website, Waller hopes to spread awareness and relate to others who also suffer from intolerant relatives. “Hopefully we’ll rattle some cages of individuals, to see what we go through in the day-to-day, even with close family members.”
“It’s trying to turn a really crappy situation into something a bit more positive,” Waller said. There are many incidents that have left a sour taste in her mouth when dealing with the woman who raised her, but when her mom changed her profile picture into an image mocking marriage equality, she finally had enough.
The image (above) was made by religious groups to counter the red equality symbol that had spread around social media during the DOMA and Prop 8 cases. Expanding the photo, according to Waller, lead to more hateful things based on biblical scripture. And while it wasn’t necessarily a surprise, it was the last straw.
Though Waller personally doesn’t keep tabs on her mother any more, Waller’s wife still will check in on her just to see how she’s doing. That’s when Abby saw her mom’s new profile photo. “I was shocked,” said Waller.
Waller, at one point, had hope for her mother to have a change of heart. When Waller got married last year, her mother came to the wedding and seemed to be supportive. But since then, things have only gotten worse, according to Waller. Now, she consider’s herself more estranged from her mother than ever.
But rather than complain or vent about the issue on the internet, she’s turned to causes.com and started a fundraising campaign.
Waller took a recent birthday check she had received from her mother, deposited it, and donated it. She’s set the goal for her Daughters for Dollars campaign to a modest, $1,000, and the money will go toward the Freedom to Marry campaign.
Her write-up for the cause is a message she hopes will resonate with many in the LGBT and ally community.
My mother may be on the wrong side of history and this hurts me in a way I could never put into words, but I hope that I can turn that pain into progress. Her numerous hateful words about gay marriage have inspired me to start this campaign to raise funds so that some day soon my marriage to my wife will become federally recognized.
This hurt has prompted me to speak out & to do more. Please stand up for what’s fair and right. Support the right for every citizen to marry who they love.
My mother may not support my marriage, but you can support your daughter’s (or son’s, sister’s, brother’s, friend’s, etc.) marriage or right to marry.
“When they gave us the certificate, I cried. Our friends cried.”November 5, 2015
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