Dan Savage is Not the King of The Gays
MSNBC found 3 minutes to bring out America’s #1 gay white male, and personally, I’m a little grateful that’s all he got. Famed sex-columnist/author Dan Savage spoke briefly about the joy he would receive from seeing Rick Santorum run for president in 2016 and the double standards applied to same-sex marriage. Take a look at the video below.
Quick plug – Savage has a new book coming out, American Savage: Insights, Slights, and Fights on Faith, Sex, Love, and Politics (The Copy Editor okayed that title needs to be shot) Be sure to check it out if you’re a Savage fan.
We’ve all got guilty pleasures, and Savage fits into that category for me pretty well. His sexual advice column usually puts me someplace between titillation and annoyance I suppose, after a few cocktails, I find myself in a Savage-like trance where I’m (hopefully) witty and insightful, but, specifically, his stance on open relationships sends chills down my gay-pride spine.
I have a fairly sex-positive outlook on life, and lord knows there are times in my early years were monogamy was not exactly paramount, but I feel like Savage goes out of his way to show how sexually diverse his version of gay people are – that we are all ready and willing adventurers in the great rocky coitus mountains.
In his defense, he talks about how monogamy, children, and love are all qualities unfairly imposed onto LGBT relationships that seek marriage – “Straight people can be married without monogamous. a straight married couple have this children or not, get married in church or not. they’re still married. only when gay people want to get married, do these standards and ideals kick in and apply. Gay people, we’re told we have to get married in 1952.” And he is correct, beyond my disdain for marriage equality (over say work-place equality,) I don’t like the idea of having to conform to hetero-normative concepts in order to get a traditional marriage when straight people are participating in sham-marriages all the time.
But to trumpet out Savage as some kind of authority on the gay lifestyle sets the community up to an unfair and uncommon standard. I’d imagine few of us seek open-relationships, and as LGBT folks work toward larger acceptance, putting a polygamist at the front of our parade seems a little self-defeating.
But that’s just my opinion. What do you think of Savage and the idea of open relationships? Tell us in the comments below!
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Diana Medley (via WTWO-TV) Staff Reports The Human Rights Campaign (HRC) and activist Dan Savage, founder of the “It Gets Better” project, joined a chorus of LGBT advocates from across the country in condemning a group of students and parents in Sullivan, Ind., who met Sunday to discuss plans for a high school prom that would exclude gay [...]February 12, 2013
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