Walking Into It Blind
There are endless ways to meet prospective dates. Of course the bar/club scene, coffee shops, shopping, the gym, online or who knows… even the grocery store. Oftentimes we are unaware that we are even going to meet someone because it sneaks up on you when it’s least expected. There comes a point though, when there seem to be less people to meet or you get somewhat discouraged.
A couple bad dates, a relationship gone wrong, or life just comes at you full force and other things become priority. Lately I have been in this place between wanting to get out and meet new people and not knowing where to start. The bar/club scene has never really produced a good date for me, so I have somewhat sworn it off other than for fun. Online dating is not something I am interested in, but have been curious about what there is out there. Randomly meeting someone… well, most lesbians would never pick me out of a line up for being gay so that is unlikely. So what is left, when it comes to going out and meeting people?
When I least expect it, and definitely not asking for it, my friends have been trying to set me up with girls. I have never been on a blind date and must admit that I am somewhat curious as to what it would be like. Never having met the person on my own. Or even seeing what they look like.
The more I think about it the more that a blind date makes some sense. Take away the nerves of meeting someone that someone else has chosen for you… If these are friends that know you or have hung out with you enough, they should know what your interests are, your perspective on things, and your taste in a woman.
I have even begun to think that it takes some pressure off of me. Let me explain. When you meet someone and end up on a date with them and it ends horribly, you have only yourself to blame for choosing to go out with them. If someone else sets it up then you take the chance, but if it is horrid, then it was not your idea in the first place.
I have not fully made up my mind on the blind date situation. I am intrigued and I am a girl that likes a new adventure. Maybe it is exactly the right thing for me to try at the moment. Walk into it confident, in my tallest shoes, and see what it brings.
Lucy Lipstick blogs about her experiences from a lesbian perspective every Friday on GayRVA.
Lucy Lipstick was once a single girl, living in Richmond. She found love, and could no longer write about the meeting and greeting of prospective dates. Now she is living life, and writing about the everyday things that occur in the life of a lipstick lady living in the RIC. E-mail Lucy at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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