Two Roads Diverged
“Two roads diverged in a wood, and I— I took the one less traveled by”
I’ve often wandered down the roads less traveled. How cliché is that? Perhaps I’m different, but likely not more so than any other individual. Perhaps we have something in common? I have quite a cast of characters. My life is not full of glamour or parties but it’s a great life. My partner and I live with 3 kids, 3-4 dogs, 3 fish and 2 kitties. That’s a snapshot of our family. How did it get that way?
I got pregnant at 16 but I chose to keep my baby girl. I completed High School and graduated with my Bachelor’s degree after pushing my way through college. My circumstances had me featured on the local news. While being on the news wasn’t super special, my little girl is now 21 and working on her higher education. She still lives at home and she is special.
I got married once…and divorced. That seems normal. I came out of that with two more kids. I have a 10-year-old son and a seven-year-old daughter. They are honor roll students, they play sports and they spend time with all of their family.
I got lucky after a bit of dating and found love. We dated and then we incorporated the kids. A career change resulted in her giving up corporate housing here and heading Atlanta for two months. We decided rather than getting another apartment immediately or putting everything in storage I’d care for her dog and her stuff. She’d move in right before leaving and we agreed to see how it went when she got back…She hasn’t left yet. Moving in together before we’d planned and finding it to be great is pretty special to us though perhaps outside the norm? We are thrilled each time we come home and are greeted with hugs and kisses. That’s pretty normal, but many people think not.
I already had my pups, Layla and Sprout and now Roscoe makes three. These guys are in addition to the fosters who are always present. We rescue dogs. Some days it’s great and some days it could drive you to drink. Most fall in between (and kids do that for you too.) I’ve learned so much and this is a great way for the family to help make a difference in our world together, doing something we know and love.
The goldfish? I don’t think they are that special but the son was heartbroken when one died. The youngest daughter is cheering them on to death so she can get sharks. The cats? Miss Lola was born under a barn and is one bad-ass girl. She guards my porch and takes no smack. Genghis Khan is the wimp. All efforts to help him not be a natural victim have failed.
I love my family. I think we are special and perhaps we can teach you something along your way.
Lillian Studevant is a working professional and mother of three. She is passionate about animals and rescues dogs in addition to two of her own. Follow more of her family's adventures on her Personal Blog.
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