You get up in the morning. You roll out of bed and it’s just one of those days. You’re not feelin’ it and just can’t seem to shake your disgruntled mood. You start the day and you walk the regular few blocks to work.
On your way there you meet eyes with someone. They’re dreamy and perfect and totally your type. You think; “not today” and keep walking.
On any other day this could have been the person of your dreams. You could have met and they would have been exactly what you were looking for. This anonymous person could have been “the one”, but the timing wasn’t right.
That’s a simple example, but the concept is the same. I believe that when it comes to relationships, timing plays a huge part in how things work out. Not only do both of you have to like each other and have a mutual attraction. You both have to be looking and open to a new possibility.
You walk into a coffee shop and run into this wonderful person. You share a nice conversation and things seem to be going really well; they’re nice, charming and have a great smile. You’re hoping to get their number or maybe they’ll give you theirs…but nothing. What you don’t know is that they just got out of a serious relationship and no matter the chemistry, they’re not looking for anything. Again, timing gets in the way.
I’ve been thinking about this theory of mine for a while and wondering if it in some way pertains to me. Could I meet the perfect guy, but be the disgruntled person walking to work or the newly single person in the coffee shop?
Last week I would have said no…this week I’m inclined to say yes.
I was barreling full force ahead trying to get over my ex and doing quite well I might add. But then comes timing like a freight train.
I was with a friend of mine and all of a sudden the subject turned to my ex: Shades. The conversation went from one comment to a three-hour binge on mine and Shades’ relationship.
There I was smack dab right in the middle of it all again. I didn’t know it then, but it looked like my time of carefree-I’m-over-this-attitude was over… Instead of letting time heal things, I seem to be back where I started.
Justin is a 23 year old senior at Virginia Commonwealth University. He is working on his bachelors in English and looking for Mr. Right. You can read more about his escapades in dating at his personal blog, "A Gay College Guy in Virginia".
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