Editor’s note: This story comes from Michele Archer, a PFLAG mom.
Early one Saturday morning I was going out for the newspaper and was more than a little surprised to find my 16 year old son standing on the porch looking very much like the cat that swallowed the canary. For some reason I simply said, “You’re probably pretty tired. Why don’t you go to bed and we’ll talk later.”
‘Later’ turned out to be five years! When I finally asked him about that morning had been all about, he said he’d tell me when he thought I wouldn’t punish him… as he hadn’t lived at home for three years, I assured him he was safe!
It turned out that he had left the house after midnight when I was asleep and left the door unlocked so he could get back in. Perhaps I heard him leaving without realizing it, but something made me get up in the middle of the night and check the lock. So, I locked him out without knowing it. He sneaked out so he could be with ‘friends’ – gays and lesbians. He knew he was gay and had not yet told me. At the time he was working part-time at a deli with a young woman who is a lesbian and several years older than he. It was important to him to be with people who understood him and to spend some time in their, and his, world.
I’m not a mom who usually lets things slide – I want immediate answers. But I wasn’t my usual self that time-the one who hounded until my child had to say something just to get me off his back! To this day, I honestly believe some greater power directed my actions on that occasion. Thank goodness I only locked one door that night … the front door.
Parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) meet the second Tuesday of each month at the ROSMY building on 2311 Westwood Avenue from 6:30 – 8:30 p.m.
Ted Heck, a name familiar to many trans and LGBQ community members, will speak at April’s Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays meeting. Heck serves as the contract administrator for HIV prevention grants and as the transgender services coordinator at the Virginia Health Department. In addition, he edits and produces the Virginia Transgender Resource and [...]