Stay In. Write a Letter.
Wait a second, was that a breeze I felt? Holy crap, looks like summer might be dying down! I’m sure tomorrow it’ll be 100 degrees, but let’s be honest, you don’t really want it to end, do you? You’ve had a good run over the last few months.
Up until now you’ve had a great summer! You’ve enjoyed the vibrant splendor of a younger partner, you’ve gotten out of town and had a blast, and I’m sure you enjoyed the seductive vibrations of that earthquake we had. Yet, all that excitement and all this damn heat have taken a toll! Though you may be tempted to seek out another cooling breeze or two, we believe it’s time to enjoy a break, stay at home, and take some time to yourself. This is why Booty Jams Podcast recommends you settle in, break open that bottle of Vino Verde, and write someone a letter.
Yes, you heard right, a letter! Pen to paper, stamp to envelope, 20th century style! When was the last time you dated that first sheet of a legal pad and gushed your thoughts in the written word? Yeah, we thought so, it’s been ages! If ever! Time to get back to basics.
You’ll want to start yourself off by setting the proper mood.
While you’re here on the internets reading this article, pop open another tab, and download the new Fleet Foxes album, Helplessness Blues. This, my friends, is letter writing music. It’s all dreamy, and stare-out-of-a-car-windowy; it’s perfect. But if Fleet Foxes isn’t your flavor, get the new Beirut, or hell, cue up a soul music Pandora station. Point is, get something in your ears to induce that comfortable reflective state of mind. Now, pour another glass of wine. A little buzz is essential to a healthy night of letter writing. Careful not to spill.
Before we get started, it’s important to remember this letter is less for your recipient and more for you. Of course, there is probably that old friend you’ve been meaning to write, with whom it’d be wonderful to catch up. Yet, before you fill your pages asking Krystal about baby number six, let’s consider a thing or two.
Think of this correspondence more of a letter in a bottle, think of this as an opportunity to express those things you’ve realized are too complicated to speak causally about. We’re not saying divulge your every fear and worry, but more your summer hopes and dreams, and perhaps a few of those summer secrets you’ve been keeping under your covers. Your recipient need be trusted, of course, yet a response to your heartfelt life spew isn’t the goal. Your reflections and expression is most valuable here.
In the rush and furry of days at the pool, nights spent barbequing, and all that youthful energy that’s been deep, deep inside you recently, it’s easy to lose track of things. The summer is about fun and relaxation, but it’s gotta be sustainable. If we hope to maintain the fun, and not find our summer months catching up to us in the form of fractured relationships or bridges burned, we must take a bit of reflection time. Use this letter to reflect. Often when we talk something out it provides a different experience than simply journaling or thinking it over. When you explain where you are to someone, you discover connections that you may not have realized; connections between thought and action, and between action and intention.
This letter can serve as an uninterrupted proclamation of where you are, and how you see your life. An exercise in self exploration by way of the U.S. Postal Service.
[Now, write the letter!]
After bottle number two is complete and your hand becomes too lazy for the page, you’re probably done. By now you’ve realized long forgotten childhood secrets, and processed them completely. You’ve dished fully the details of every sexual episode of the last several years, and have been brave enough to admit a thing or two about when you’ve been wrong. Enjoy the cool of the night, for it is time to lay down your drunken head, and blindly pass out. Sleep well, my golden boy.
Rest assured the next morning will start with a furry of instant regret. You’ll fear you’d written too much about too much! But have faith, that’s the hangover talking. Reread your brilliant letter, and odds are you’ll find an eloquent soliloquy gleaming with truth, and beautiful sentence structure.
It’s not every day we have the time or peace of mind to properly walk back through our days and see clearly what brought us to where we are. A summer letter is the perfect opportunity to rest and reflect without getting too hot in the process. Trust, and be brave. Get yourself some morning wine, and take that long walk to the mailbox.
Oh yeah, and throw some sand in there, to make it extra summery. I believe you just made this season your bitch.
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