I’m by no means well-versed in the “gay scene” in Richmond, but one thing I have learned in my limited experience is that it is very small. All of the guys that I met on the two or three nights that I went out and ended up being friends with on Facebook were all friends already. In essence – everyone knows everyone.
Well, that leads me to the funny run-in that I had last week. In full “don’t look back” style, I signed up for this dating site. I have to admit, I was pretty skeptical and I hadn’t done it before, but a friend told me they had had success on the site and I figured why not?
A few days after I signed up, I messaged a few people and a few people messaged me. Plenty of back-and-forth emails and a few chats later, I narrowed it down to two guys that I thought seemed cool and was interested in meeting: Brody and Ben.
The obligatory phone conversation came and I talked to the first guy, Ben. He seems like a nice guy, so we talk about getting together towards the end of the week. The next day, I was texting Brody all day. We ended up talking on the phone later that night. He seemed like a great guy, the conversation flowed and then he tells me that he has something to tell me….
At this point I wasn’t sure what he was going to tell me, but I was hoping it had nothing to do with diseases, ha.
“So, Justin, I need to tell you something. I’m still good friends with my ex and we were talking and I think you’ve been talking to both of us…”
The only thing I could do was laugh. I mean how small is Richmond that the two people that I’ve decided to meet up with are exes? At first, I had the idea that it might have made me look like I was trying to date them both, but I guess I hadn’t even gone on a first date with either yet so I just kept laughing.
I have to say that when Brody was up front and honest with me about the whole situation it really made me respect him. He could have easily kept that from me and waited to see what unfolded.
In the end, I ended up going out with Brody while Ben and I just parted ways once it was all out in the open. Since they were still friends I didn’t want to get in the middle of anything.
It’s all worked out for the best, but boy is it hard to date when your past is right around the corner. In a small city like Richmond, it’s a good thing my baggage doesn’t live around here!
Justin is a 23 year old senior at Virginia Commonwealth University. He is working on his bachelors in English and looking for Mr. Right. You can read more about his escapades in dating at his personal blog, "A Gay College Guy in Virginia".