So, the word is we are all waiting for the one. Apparently, there will be this one person to satisfy all our wants and desires; one person with whom we’ll want to spend the rest of our lives, raise a family, and die while poetically embracing. What can we say? That’s just what we’ve heard. Honestly, it sounds like bullshit to us, but putting aside the fact that this model leaves out our poly friends, as well as those who have no real interest in family, we’ll concede that we all do want partners with whom we can have lasting and fulfilling relationships. Problem is, those partners are hard to come by; fuck it, those partner are near impossible to come by! So, what do we do? Sit lonely and depressed until they come along? Of course not! We’ve got to bang who we can bang, and love who we can love! We’ve got to accept our fate and try to get the most out of those partners that we do find, even if we don’t see a proper life together. We at Booty Jams Podcast like to refer to these relationships as Road Trips.
The key to a Road Trip Relationship is that for whatever reason, be it a difference in world view or because check out is at 9am, the ending is clear from the start. Unlike those more lasting relationships where anything is possible, and the finality of things less palpable, Road Trips have a shelf life, and you both know it. As you pack your bags and load up the car its obvious you have two separate destinations. You’re headed north to Seattle, while your mate’s off to see the sun in San Diego. And while you know you’ll split ways as you head further west, for a time you’re headed in the same direction. Question is, can you still enjoy the trip with the end in sight? Can you still see the land marks and take pleasure in the scenic overlooks? Is the the final destination too daunting for you both to have a good time? There are a few things to consider.
First things first, don’t kid yourself. Don’t try to convince yourself she wants to join you in Seattle, you idiot, and nor do you want to surf it up down south. The trip will be doomed from the start if you don’t accept the road trip for what it is, something final, and something short lived. If you can’t right yourself with that idea, GET OUT OF THE CAR! Secondly, communication is key. Talk about the finality of the thing before you get in too deep. Use the road trip analogy to soften the blow, and communicate that you still want to enjoy the trip together. Hopefully, your partner will realize the inevitable end as you do, and honestly, if he doesn’t no need to take that trip anyway. Lastly, enjoy yourself! Not everything has to be that great relationship for which we often hope. Have as much fun as you can, and when you get to Washington, maybe you’ll have learned something for your new life on the west coast.
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