“Online dating, modern mating…find your dream come true, doctor, lawyer, they’re waiting for you… Post your picture, tell your story, drop a year or so, say you’re lovely, don’t say lonely…Who will ever know?” (Lyrics by Jackie Morris, “Online Dating”)
I’m back. The blind date never happened; however, I decided to try something new. After being snowed in two weekends in a row, I ran out of things to do. So I listened to a friend and decided to join the online dating world. I have always been a skeptic of online dating, because I always felt that I should meet people in real life instead of from my computer. Well, real life can be dry sometimes. Not to mention hard for someone that no one would pick out of a crowd as a lesbian.
I wrote my bio, likes, dislikes, and sent it out into the world with a photo attached. I decided if I were going to do it, I would do it all or nothing for one month. After 24 hours of having the profile up I received e-mails and was reminded by my friend’s words, “if one does not interest you, there are hundreds more out there.”
It definitely puts a whole new perspective on the dating game. I guess it’s the modern, fast-paced way of dating, instead of waiting for the right person, it’s deciding to make an effort to meet them. I have decided meeting someone online, if they are honest, then you know more about them than if you were to meet someone in a bar.
I have stated before that it is especially hard to date in the lesbian world here. If you are femme, there are fewer of us and no one seeks us out. Going online means taking control of a situation and putting it out there that you are interested. The only pitfall of the online dating that I have found thus far, is running into an ex.
When that little photo popped up saying we are compatible it made my stomach a little sick. Here is my warning to all of you that may try it. Be prepared – your ex may be out there looking too.
Be careful of the crazies. There are certainly out there. And be mindful of ex’s. Have fun! Try something new, and just think maybe by Valentine’s Day you too could have a date.
Lucy Lipstick blogs about her experiences from a lesbian perspective every Friday on GayRVA.
Lucy Lipstick was once a single girl, living in Richmond. She found love, and could no longer write about the meeting and greeting of prospective dates. Now she is living life, and writing about the everyday things that occur in the life of a lipstick lady living in the RIC. E-mail Lucy at firstname.lastname@example.org.