Just Say No?
Once upon a time back in the 80′s when I was little, I firmly believed I would grow up to be a high-powered career girl complete with giant shoulder pads and heels with a glamorous life, lots of money, a great career, perfect kids and some happy hours sprinkled in for good measure. Fast forward 20 years and I’m doing alright.
I had no idea why my Mom couldn’t get it together. You know, she was always the last one out of the house as we waited forever 5 minutes in the car…As a kid I just didn’t get it. I didn’t understand that if you have a family, work full-time and have any other number of commitments and are not mindful about what you say “yes” or “no” to you can quickly get out of balance.
People often talk about life balance as if there is a perfect place where the water swirls around you and you never lose your footing…I think it’s really more like floating. Life is fluid and you have to be able to adjust. Once you understand and accept that life becomes easier.
I can give you the no brainers like get 7+ hours of sleep a night, exercise, and eat right…but what else makes a difference when your schedule is swirling out of control?
- Eliminate stress by minimizing what you can’t control and making choices on what you can
- Streamline your activities and practice saying no
- Set some goals – if you don’t know where you’re going, any road will get you there
- Make a bucket list, time box it and check your progress
- Practice being present – pay attention and avoid multi-tasking
- Remember to breathe
- Own your mood – Do a daily post-mortem on your day focusing on what was “right”
- Practice patience with changes
- Keep your child-like wonder
- And in the words of Victor Frakl, “Remember that no matter the circumstance an enduring human freedom is the ability to choose one’s attitude.”
As summer approaches and our calendars fill up with activities you might just benefit from keeping that in mind…I know for us between multiple sports, school events, vacations to plan, festivals and more I shall be living by the calendar until June.
Lillian Studevant is a working professional and mother of three. She is passionate about animals and rescues dogs in addition to two of her own. Follow more of her family's adventures on her Personal Blog.
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