There have been numerous studies telling us that “children in lesbian homes scored higher than kids in straight families on some psychological measures of self-esteem and confidence, did better academically and were less likely to have behavioral problems, such as rule-breaking and aggression.”
It seems the theory here is that since lesbians don’t accidentally get pregnant and are better prepared to take on a parenting role and actively choose to do so.
We don’t fit into that model. I am a mom to three wonderful people but only actively pursued pregnancy one of those three times. My father jokingly questioned when I announced the third child, “don’t you know what causes this yet?”
My straight sister has two accidents of her own running around. My cousins do too. It seems we are a fertile crew and so I have warned about the mighty penisaurus for years at our house. Just when you get comfortable – BAM! – a sneak attack is launched!
I had a rule that I was NOT to be turned into a Grandmother before the age of 40. The 21-year-old, college student, still living at home, daughter is pregnant. Nope. She’s not gay. Ever wish your kid was gay? I do…Right. About. Now.
She is trying to figure out what her life looks like now. Her siblings are breathing deep sighs of relief now that they’ve heard they do not have to share their rooms. Dena and I are trying to keep our heads from spinning while walking a fine line between support and something…I’m fastening my seat belt. This should be an interesting ride.
Lillian Studevant is a working professional and mother of three. She is passionate about animals and rescues dogs in addition to two of her own. Follow more of her family's adventures on her Personal Blog.