Why Lucy Should Buy the First Drink
Last weekend was interesting and informative… However, before I get to that, thank you for your comments and your warm welcome!
This past summer it seemed that no matter which group of friends I was with or what I was doing, they were all telling me the same thing.
“You are the one that has to make the first move.” It seems that this has been the way for me my whole life, with very few exceptions. I never mind making the first move and at times it can be fun because it is unexpected.
After the last breakup, I was determined to let someone else make the first move. And for a change, I would sit back, enjoy the flirting, and let their nerves tingle instead of mine. After last weekend, I have decided that I am back in the driver’s seat.
Let me explain. Being a lipstick lady in this town, if you don’t make the first move, you may never get a move. Nine times out of ten people take one look at me and think- straight! Last weekend, I was at one of my favorite local places with some friends and a beautiful girl walked in with a friend of hers.
I looked over at her once or twice and finally thought “what the hell- why not try this.” I got up all my courage, and did something I have never done. I asked the bartender to send over a drink to her, from me. After a few moments of girly giggles between her and her friend, the bartender was standing in front of me asking what I wanted to drink because she was returning the compliment.
All of this flirtatious-ness between us ended up with us having a fun time. We talked, danced and exchanged numbers. My instincts served me well; she even played for the team. Even though I don’t think that it is going to turn into anything, it gave me some confidence in following my instincts and making the first move.
It was also a lesson that no matter where we are in this city, a typical lesbian hangout or not, there are Lucy’s everywhere. So ladies, my thought is we need to take that confidence and make the move. Honestly, the worst that could happen is that a stranger receives a compliment and says- “no thank you.”
Just think you didn’t know them before, so you aren’t missing out on anything. Or she could end up being the most amazing woman you have ever met.
This weekend is Pride here in Richmond, and I will be out on the town dancing the night away in the tallest shoes I can find! I hope to see you all out!
Lucy Lipstick blogs about her dating experiences from a lesbian perspective every Friday on GayRVA.
Lucy Lipstick was once a single girl, living in Richmond. She found love, and could no longer write about the meeting and greeting of prospective dates. Now she is living life, and writing about the everyday things that occur in the life of a lipstick lady living in the RIC. E-mail Lucy at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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