Lucy Lipstick: Change Happens
There are two things that are inevitable. The first is time. We can’t move it or stop it. The second is change. No matter how firmly we stand or how much time passes, there is always change. The two are tangled in each other. Without time, there is no change and without change, time seems to stand still.
I have been pondering these two things a lot recently. How did I go from single to off the market? How did my heart go from shut down to letting down a guard? It seems that change is happening all around me. My friends are getting married and having children and I am falling into something that seems stable and concrete. I guess this is what happens when you get older. People pair off and for the most part every one ends up with one person. Does going from single to together change us as people?
Everyone we date or commit ourselves to has a purpose in entering our lives. Sometimes these experiences are really great and expand our horizons to help mold us into the adults we become. Other experiences are heartbreaking and tedious but teach us what we do not want in someone else. This weekend I attended two weddings and watched as some friends made it well known to everyone dear to them that they are in it for the long haul. As I watched them make their commitments I thought about the people making them and how love changed them. From their wild days into wanting a more concrete, quiet existence. They went from wild parties and meeting different people every weekend to dinner with the same person every night.
It seems that some sort of change is happening in me as well. Time seems to be moving at the speed of lesbian light for me – fast and non-stop. I went from being the most single and happily independent woman to wanting someone else to spend my time and thoughts with.
I have never been the kind of woman to get too close too fast, instead taking my time and always keeping one foot out. While I cherish my independence and crave my time alone, it seems as time moves ahead there is a change in me too.
I will always be independent and want to spend a few moments of solitude; however, with this new love interest it seems that I can’t get enough. I want to know everything about her, spend more time together than not, and tangle our lives together into one big knot.
So maybe it’s true that when you find someone worthwhile there is a change that happens. It does not change who we are as people, but changes what we want in life.
Lucy Lipstick blogs about her dating experiences from a lesbian perspective every Friday on GayRVA.
Lucy Lipstick was once a single girl, living in Richmond. She found love, and could no longer write about the meeting and greeting of prospective dates. Now she is living life, and writing about the everyday things that occur in the life of a lipstick lady living in the RIC. E-mail Lucy at email@example.com.
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