I’ve mentioned before that in one of my classes there is this guy that I think is just down right hot! – No other way to put it and the past few classes we’ve actually sat next to each other.
As my brother says: I can talk to just about anyone…. well not this dude! This kid makes me so nervous. For example: we’re sitting in class and about to be let out. I have my iPhone on my desk (he has the same one) and dude looks over as I’m hammering away at my email.
“Hey man, you get reception in here?” he says.
Now, in my head I’m thinking “Holy shit, he’s talking to me” – what am I… a school girl!?
“Nope, never do. I always have to connect to the wi-fi. I’ve been trying to send an email all class and it just sent.”
We both laugh and talk about how if you don’t touch the phone that you’ll get reception in the room. I know this could have been my chance to keep the conversation going. I introduce myself and ask him the obligatory college conversation starter; “What’s your major?” (I wish), then we both head out walking together to our next classes with continued interesting conversation (I walk away alone) and then we decide to meet up some time and live happily ever after (I head to my next class dateless).
Usually I can talk to just about anyone or about anything, but in this case I hit a brick wall and that wall is called ambiguity. The unknown in this case would be whether or not this dude is even gay…a problem that I come across in all the guys I like.
There have been some signs: He seems to be friendly with this obviously gay guy and this girl in our class; I thought about asking them about him but eventually I decided against it. After class a few days ago we seem to lock eyes in the stair well – sign number 2, he dresses better than I do – sign 3, and then the fact that he started the conversation with me which may or may not be a sign at all.
Either way I hate looking for signs. I wish things were so much simpler. A story of boy likes boy. I could ask him out and, in this case, just KNOW that he was gay or straight and then I’d leave it be. Or he could make the move and ask me out, I’d been pretty happy either way. But instead there is this guessing game in gay dating – at least when you aren’t in an overtly gay atmosphere (bar, club, Pride, etc.).
This ambiguity in gay dating is something that I hate. I always wonder how many guys that I’ve passed up talking to merely because I was unsure of their sexual orientation and I guessed wrong. I should get a shirt made that says, “I like wieners”…that should clear up any confusion….
Update: After writing this article, I found out that hot dude is in fact straight. I’d like to thank Facebook and Blackboard for all their help in my stalking.
Justin is a 23 year old senior at Virginia Commonwealth University. He is working on his bachelors in English and looking for Mr. Right. You can read more about his escapades in dating at his personal blog, "A Gay College Guy in Virginia".
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