Lesbian Lit Review
The Gay Community Center of Richmond’s Lesbian book club meets the second Monday of every month in the sofa room near the back or right as you come in the door if the sofa room has been usurped by the coming out group. We’re a motley crew of retirees and professionals ages twenty to sixty eight that come together to discuss books written by or about lesbians.
The September read was Lipstick’s and Dipstick’s Essential Guide to Lesbian Relationships by Gina Daggett and Kathy Belge published by Alyson Books. Gina Daggett is Lipstick, the femme and Kathy Belge is Dipstick, the tomboy butch. This dykenamic duo writes the advice column for Curve magazine. This easy-to-read paperback offers lesbians advice on almost all lesbian relationship issues: dealing with ex-girlfriends, being non-existent to your partner’s parents, wild (and tame) times in the bedroom, how to unpack the U-haul, tie the knot or not and keeping love alive – chapter 11. And just when you think you’ve been completely educated, you’ll find the glossary at the end of the book. Trust me, the glossary is absolutely necessary because Lipstick is a very creative and proliferate wordsmith. That’s a fancy way of saying she makes stuff up.
This month’s discussion leader turned out to be me because the scheduled leader fell ill to the creeping crud and couldn’t make it. Our first question of the night was “who offered the best advice?” I liked Dipstick’s advice throughout the book because it seemed to be thoughtful most of the time and grounded in her counseling background. Lipstick’s answers seemed to center around a lot of boozing, bedding and vengeance plotting. Kym pointed out “At times they both gave horrible advice” but Heather said she really liked the differing opinions and that it was good to have different perspectives. Colleen reads the monthly column in Curve magazine, loves it and is a big fan of Lipstick and Dipstick. I’ll admit it, I’m not big fan of euphemisims for sex or sexual organs, “furry taco” -really?! Topics from the book sparked conversation around gays in the military, wedding attire and planning, gay vacation spots etc. If anyone knows anything about the annual gay Labor Day weekend in New Orleans, please tell us. We heard it was a boy thing but we’re nosy and just want to know. On the whole, we thought Lipstick’s and Dipstick’s Essential Guide to Lesbian Relationships was an OK read with some good and be warned, some questionable advice for the young or new lesbian.
Next month has a fantastic read! Malinda Lo’s Ash is a darkly romantic fantasy version of Cinderella and will be up for discussion on October 11th. Be ready to answer this: what was your favorite fairy tale as a kid?
April Brown is a voracious reader for whom writing reviews provides an excellent cover story for the tower of books leaning toward her chaise lounge. She is currently working on two books and slacking off on her blog, http://fearlessspirituality.blogspot.com. April works as a corporate trainer with almost twenty years of experience training everything from HIV/AIDS prevention programs for incarcerated youth in Virginia to health insurance continuing education.
“Somehow I learned that I belonged with my people and that I had a responsibility to contribute to them.”October 20, 2015
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